Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Steppin' Out

Beth Moore makes me cry.

Honestly, her books and Bible studies are some of my very favorites. She has a way about her that so speaks to my heart. I had the opportunity to hear her speak in person once and it was just amazing. I don't know what it is about her, but she always just strikes me as remarkably genuine and down to earth. Straight talking, but completely graceful. And I can't think of a single thing of hers that I've read or heard her say that I've thought, "Yeah, that doesn't sound right to me." Anyone who knows me knows that is insanely rare. There's probably something out there, but I haven't run across it yet!

Right now I'm participating in her Wising Up study. It's a study of wisdom, particularly as seen in Proverbs and in the session we started last night, she was talking about friendship. Pastor Tim just finished a sermon series about friendship, but this hit me a lot closer to home. From the minute Beth started talking about what a real friend is until we turned off the disk 45 minutes later, I was just leaking all over the place.

First, I am crazy lucky to have a couple of women who I consider close friends. They make me think. They challenge me and help me grow. They emotionally support me no matter how ridiculous I'm being. They allow me to be completely honest, even if that honesty isn't pretty. They've seen my soul laid bare and they still talk to me. I know that many never have that, and I have been blessed to have two women who fit the bill. And lest it sound too dismal, these women are still remarkably close to me. I can't imagine anything that could happen (especially at this point!) that could break the bonds of friendship that we share.

That said, one of the points Beth made last night is that friend indicates someone who is in close proximity to you. A neighbor. Someone you can call at whatever time and who can be right there. And while the internet, cheap long distance & cars have made the world much, much smaller, there is definitely something to be said for having a friend who is nearby who you can see regularly. There's nothing like having a friend you can call in the morning and meet for breakfast 20 minutes later, even if you haven't fixed your hair or face and have a coffee stain on the front of your shirt. I love when I get together with my bff's, but it's definitely an "event" and that's different than the spur of the moment visits. When I have a rough day, I can call them, or shoot them an email or text (well, when I get a cell again I can!), but it's just not the same as kicking back with a coke and a crappy movie and laughing or crying together.

One thing that we didn't talk about last night (maybe it will show up in the second half) is that for me, a super close friend has to be a woman. That is not a slam against guys. Again, I'm super lucky to know some great guys and to have some that I would consider to be friends and even close friends. My husband was one of my dearest friends before we became romantically involved. But ultimately for me, no man will ever be able to understand my heart the way another woman can. There are unspoken things that a woman can hear that a man, no matter how close, simply can't read. I love my husband madly and deeply and can talk with him for hours about just about anything, but even he is no substitute for a female friend.

Because so much has been pointing in the direction of friendship, I'm trying to reach out to a few women "on the fringes" in my life. Clearly my reaction to last night's study indicates that my heart is aching for a friend. I don't want to seem desperate, but the fact is, I need a friend. So it's time to step out of my comfort zone where I wait for someone to find me and become my friend and look to be a friend first. It will be fun (if a little frightening!) to see what happens next!

Monday, September 28, 2009

Musical Monday

I don't have much to say about today's song. I like this one because I've been in the dark place before and I need the reminder that even in those times, I need to be waiting, watching & praising. This is "I Will Wait for You" by Phil Wickham.

I will wait for You there
Down on my knees where I met You
Give You all of my cares
Find a grace to hold onto now
I'm calling for You

I will wait for You there
far from the world and its violence
It left broken and bare
I need to hear You in the silence now
Im calling for You

And with outstretched arms
I will sing out melodies
And my beating heart
Will pour out a symphony
Hallelujahs in the morning
Hallelujahs in the night
I will wait for you as long as I have life

I will wait for You there
Down On my knees where I met you
'Cause life is a war fought with tears
But You are the strength I hold onto now
I'm calling for you

Friday, September 25, 2009

Being Nice

"The News" has shown us a lot of mean people lately. Screaming at line judges for doing their jobs, stealing microphones from young singers winning an award, even interrupting the president during a speech. Sometimes watching these displays, it's easy to think that there aren't any nice people left. I know that personally, that can leave me feeling a bit helpless and despondant.

But there is something we can do!

Someone over at (one of my all-time favorite haunts, and a place where there are a whole mess of ridiculously nice people) posted a link to Do One Nice Thing. The idea behind this site is basically to do something nice for someone each Monday. They have lots of ideas, from small things to large things. And some small things that can become large things when done with lots of people. Some have a cost, usually minimal, and many are free.

It's easy to think that our little moments of niceness go unnoticed, but don't be so sure. I will never forget being in college and getting ready to drive to my home. I decided to spend a few dollars at the McDonald's. I ordered my food and pulled through to the payment window. When there, the girl working the checkout told me that the car ahead of me had already paid for my food. I had ordered probably $3 of food (it was back when you could get a meal for under $5) so this probably wasn't a big expense for this person, but that was probably about 13 years ago and I still remember it pretty clearly. I have even done it myself since then a few times, and it is always a great feeling to look in my rearview mirror and see that confused, then happy look on the next driver's face.

Being nice feels good. Even if it does go unnoticed by the recipient, trust me, you won't regret it. So check out the site. You may not find something there that you can do, but maybe it will get those creative juices flowing and you'll be able to think of something else. Make someone's Monday nice. I'm going to do it. Maybe we can share some of our ideas here too!

Monday, September 21, 2009

Musical Monday

Jason got to go see Switchfoot a few weeks ago, so my car has had lots of their music in it. I know that I've done one of their songs before, but I'm going to go ahead and post another one. Probably my favorite one of their cd's is "Nothing is Sound." And while I absolutely love the song "Stars" from it (the opening guitar riff is one of the coolest things ever, in my opinion), my favorite song on the disc is "The Shadow Proves the Sunshine."

If anyone has been in that dark place, this song will probably resonate with you. I've been in the shadows. It's cold. It's scary. It's lonely.

But as Jon Forman so brilliantly points out, shadows can only exist when there is a light source. There can be things in our lives that block out the sunlight of God's love, but it never stops shining on us. This is a great song. I particularly like the last line of this song. Enjoy!

Sunshine, won't you be my mother
Sunshine, come and help me see
My heart is darker than these oceans
My heart is frozen underneath

We are crooked souls trying to stay up straight
Dry eyes in the pouring rain where
The shadow proves the sunshine
The shadow proves the sunshine
Too scared little run-aways
Hold fast to the break of daylight where
The shadow proves the sunshine
The shadow proves the sunshine

Oh, Lord, why did you forsake me?
Oh, Lord, don't be far away (away)
Storm clouds, gathering beside me
Please, Lord, don't look the other way

I'm a crooked soul trying to stay up straight
Dry eyes in the pouring rain where
The shadow proves the sunshine
The shadow proves the sunshine
Too scared little run-aways
Hold fast to the break of daylight where
The shadow proves the sunshine
The shadow proves the sunshine

Yeah, shine on me (x3)
Shine on me

Oh, oh, oh

Yeah, crooked souls trying to stay up straight
Dry eyes in the pouring rain where
The shadow proves the sunshine
The shadow proves the sunshine
Too scared little runaways
Hold fast to the break of daylight where
The shadow proves the sunshine
The shadow proves the sunshine

Yeah, shine on me (x3)
Shine on me, let my shadows prove your sunshine

Friday, September 11, 2009

9/11 Remembered

I love The Message's interpretation of this passage.

Matthew 5:43-48:
You're familiar with the old written law, 'Love your friend,' and its unwritten companion, 'Hate your enemy.' I'm challenging that. I'm telling you to love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. When someone gives you a hard time, respond with the energies of prayer, for then you are working out of your true selves, your God-created selves. This is what God does. He gives his best—the sun to warm and the rain to nourish—to everyone, regardless: the good and bad, the nice and nasty. If all you do is love the lovable, do you expect a bonus? Anybody can do that. If you simply say hello to those who greet you, do you expect a medal? Any run-of-the-mill sinner does that.

In a word, what I'm saying is, Grow up. You're kingdom subjects. Now live like it. Live out your God-created identity. Live generously and graciously toward others, the way God lives toward you.

Tuesday, September 08, 2009

Special Musical Monday, Part 2

This is a continuation of yesterday's post.

When Webb's song first dropped, I started reading at various blogs where it had been discussed. There were some strong, intelligent discussions about the issue of homosexuality in the Church and about Webb's take on it. At one blog, a commenter wrote that he didn't think that hatred of homosexuals was a big deal among Christians. In a response to that comment, someone said that to really know, one would have to ask some gay Christians their perspective.

Reading that sparked a little something in my mind, so I decided to approach a couple of people that I know in real life who are either gay themselves or are a straight ally and still Christian. I will say up front that my sampling is ridiculously small and that they are in no way speaking for the entire gay Christian community, but only for themselves.

Tina has been my one of my best friends since about the first day of high school and is the person who has had the most profound impact on my thoughts. I've known Dustin for years through various church activities. I met Carol through her blog and through Tina on Facebook. Carol was married to Ray Boltz, who came out about a year ago. Dustin & Tina are both Christians who are out, and Carol is a straight ally. I thank all of them for their candid responses to these questions and for allowing me (and you) the opportunity to put a human face on what is all too often just an “issue.”

1. Webb's song suggests that many Christians hate some based on their sexual orientation. Some have indicated that hatred from the church toward the GLBT population is not as rampant as he writes. Based on your experience, where does the truth lie?

Tina: I have not experienced many Christians who have expressed literal hate GLBT individuals.

BUT, it FEELS like it.

There are so many lies and heartless messages out there, not to mention the suppression of positive GLBT info, that it feels like Christians are against GLBT people.

However, one-on-one, I have found most people caring and interested in having the opportunity to talk about faith and homosexuality.

Mostly, people are doing what they've been taught. They have been bombarded with misinformation and lies. (i have issues here with LEADERSHIP because they set the tone/course).

Additionally, b/c the GLBT community is usually invisible and trying to stay out of the line of fire, the Straight Community's prejudiced beliefs and fears go unchallenged.

Dustin: I don't believe there is hatred for the GLBT population among christians, but rather, a fear of the unknown. I think that the church sometimes uses it's influence as a scare tactic. Sincere christians don't hate - hatred is reserved for ignorant christians. As christians, we believe in something so incredibly intangible, and operate on blind faith, toward a deity that we cannot possibly understand or comprehend. I'm baffled by those christians that do not understand or cannot comprehend homosexuality, but will turn around and blindly give their life to God. It seems arrogant and antithetical that one can understand and comprehend God, but not me.

Carol: Based on MY experience, it is necessary to listen to the people who said, “I tried, and I know I’m gay.” They are telling you the truth. If they had ANY way to just fit in and be “normal” so that they didn’t have to leave loved ones, family, church, parents, etc., in order to live as themselves, they would. Most people find acceptance, and once they do, they are happier. But they still miss their kids, if they had them. They miss their “best friends” that they married, but can’t be married to any more. As far as hatred, it can range drastically. It can be vulgar, mean-spirited, and hateful. Some even cloak their words in niceties, but if they don’t accept that glbtqs are not choosing to be different than the majority, they are not believing the ones who are SAYING the truth from their own lives. (do you get that?) When you won’t believe someone who’s telling you the truth, what even is that?

2. I've heard a number of people say, "Hate the sin, love the sinner." How have you seen that played out in real-life relationships?

Tina: Not well.

Imagine that it was love the sinner, hate the heterosexuality.

Where are the lines? What do you hate? If you were straight in a gay world, how would your interactions with church, community and family of origin be affected if they (out of their interpretation of God's will) hated your heterosexuality? If you were in a relationship or had a family of your own, how would you feel if you were told that you needed to leave one another to be saved? ...especially when the physical sexual acts are only a small portion of how your life is lived?

Do they just hate it when you are literally having sexual relations? or do they hate your entire relationship? the loving? the commitment? your companionship? your kids? ...what?

Along those lines, how does that translate into equal rights? Is it Christian or American to deny insurance, benefits, protection, and equal status to GLBT individuals, families and children?

Dustin: Personally, I have experienced both hating the sin, loving the sinner, as well as, hating the sin, hating the sinner. I believe strongly in adversity, as I feel it helps us to reach truth - sometimes at price, but finding truth has never been easy.

Carol: I say, “I love you sinners, and I hate what you are doing to the ones who are not in sin.”

3. Have any of the negative comments about gays and lesbians ever caused you to doubt your faith? Did any of your own presuppositions about the sinfulness (or not) of homosexuality cause you any doubts about your faith?

Tina: Yes. Wait… more like, question.

That being said, I am a Questioner. So, this is not new.

What IS new is my questioning of The Church and The Leadership. …I come from a long line of ministers, and have had such good experiences with them, that I grew up idealizing those in leadership.

There's been a serious breech of trust for me with Authority, when I don't believe that those in charge are open to The Spirit. What else has been manipulated?

And, it's been seen over and over with treatment of women, african americans, etc.... this is just another round.

And, when "people of faith" are not open to listening and bearing one another's burdens; when they judge; when we still take advantage of the weak; when power is abused for the benefit of the few; when status quo becomes the mantra..... I wonder.

However, Jesus had similar issues with The Church.

I just feel bad b/c I think the Church is not living up to what it is meant to be.

Dustin: I have really never doubted my faith because of my homosexuality. We have constantly questioned the Bible, since it's inception. But, I often wonder why we as christians choose to uphold some doctrine, whilst ignoring others. For instance, the Bible says homosexuality is an abomination. But, in the last 1000 years, no one has been put to death for working on the Sabath, or for touching the skin of a pig (Monday Night Football). Now, of course, these doctrine are Old Testament, and may seem antiquated, but it just seems too convenient. If we are to ignore these Old Testament doctrines, then why in every Catholic and Protestant service in the world today, does the service begin with a reading from the Old Testament?

Carol: By the time that I got the negative comments (via blogs, etc. and e-mails to our website) I had made up my mind that being gay is not a sin. Nothing anyone said then did anything to change my mind, but it was hurtful in the early days when I’d get PERSONAL e-mails from those who were my friends, and they would claim that Ray didn’t try hard enough. They knew “this” ministry or “that one,” where change was possible. Yeah, right. Every time they said that I WISHED it was true, but I knew it was not. I can go back over the lyrics of Ray’s songs and see the evidence of Ray’s hope and prayers for change. I can look back and I knew Ray’s dedication to God, and I knew and KNOW that there was no way that he could have prayed more or believed more, or acted in a more “right” way. It hurt me a lot when these friends would claim they knew otherwise.

4. Is there any kind of comment that comes from "church people" that seems particularly hurtful?

Tina: Any statement along the lines of "The BIBLE says it's a sin, so there's nothing else to say."

Anything that implies that they KNOW the answers already, end of discussion.

Usually, this is said with a haughty know-it-all tone, to boot!

Dustin: Over and over I hear that I'm going to Hell, because I am homosexual. A lot of christians are somewhat arrogant and righteous - it's not our place to condemn others. I wish those individuals were confronted and condemned for their self-righteousness - that too, is a sin.

Carol: It is very hurtful when they assume that they know what my life is/was like. They assume that I had a painful life, when the fact is that I had a happy life, and I always felt loved. When they assume that to be gay means there is only one “lifestyle,” when in reality each person decides how to live – no matter if they are gay or straight. Most people don’t say things in person to me, but via e-mails and on blogs and blog comments. The e-mails that come directly to me go into two folders, marked “supportive” and “non-supportive.” Under non-supportive, there are two additional categories: stupid, and the other one is DOWNRIGHT MEAN.

5. Webb also suggests that people use debate about gay marriage as an excuse to avoid other things, like caring for the poor. Do you believe that this is accurate or do you feel that there are equal resources devoted to other issues and that evangelicals are wrongly accused of harping on GLBT issues?

Tina: Here’s where I think it’s helpful. It does raise questions about how we interpret the Bible. If we are to follow the Bible literally, why do we not kill people for working on the Sabbath, Exodus 35:2. Why does Homosexuality get such fierce attention when it’s barely mentioned in the Bible? Yet, when you cut out the Bible’s references to The Poor, the Bible is literally left in shreds. ( So, how do we choose the focal points of faith?

Secondly, how do we treat one another when we have differing perspectives? Are we quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger (James 1: 19, 20). Do we display the fruits of the Spirit, such as peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, goodness, self-control? Do we praise God with our tongues and at the same time curse men (James 3:9)? Is the old hymn true, that “They’ll know we are Christians by our love?”

Dustin: I don't think there is a lesser amount of energy spent toward other issues, but combating homosexuality seems to be much more tangible. We don't necessarily see the poor, homeless or elderly everyday. All of us could probably reach out and touch someone who is gay. The church is no position to deal with poverty, aging and homelessness - therefore, it must focus it's energy somewhere else. The easiest way to do this, is to dupe families of the church that have a son or daughter that is homosexual, into a false sense of security. The church will prey on the fears of the family, and that will, more often than not, drive away that son or daughter.

Carol: Preachers will use scare tactics to raise money, keep their flock in line, or try to draw lines about who will and will not get to heaven. I read Dobson newsletters (that they still send me because I wrote for information years ago) just to see if he’s misconstruing the truth. He is. I believe that it’s more effective in fundamentalist churches to scare people into giving, and they convince most of the congregations that there’s a homosexual agenda that’s going to take over the children, ruin families and take over the country. How false! GLBTQs just want equal rights. There is a booklet from Soulforce about Focus on the Family, and it quotes MANY words directly from radio broadcasts and written statements that vilify glbtqs. Also the book by Mel White, "Religion Gone Bad: The Hidden Dangers of the Religious Right." LOTS of quotes from FoF, Jerry Falwell, and James Kennedy, I think it is. Read them.

6. (This was for Carol only) Knowing that divorce is another big hot-button issue in the church (and would naturally be another "sanctity of marriage" statement), did you find that you received more negative response for being divorced, or because you have chosen to support Ray in coming out?

Carol: I got an e-mail the other day from a guy whose wife and he divorced. She’s remarried, but he is realizing he’s gay – that is, he’s coming to terms with it. NOW his family, friends, and church have turned against him. When I FIRST went to one friend, K., when the news was really new (that Ray had told me he was gay). This girlfriend was my maid of honor. I was crying and upset – didn’t know WHAT I was going to do. She folded her arms across her chest, and frowning, said to me, “You aren’t going to get a divorce, are you?” Then two days later she had a list of Bible verses that she wanted to “go over” with me. I told her to put away her list – because I had done NOTHING WRONG. And I said I didn’t know what to do, but I was very, very hurt and she just had no compassion for where I was coming from. She’s less judgmental now, but I have talked until I’m blue in the face, and she still doesn’t get it.

7. Is there anything you can share from your experience that can help straight people in the church be more genuinely loving to our GLBT brothers and sisters?

Tina: Find a GLBT person or Straight Ally, take them to coffee and LISTEN.

That would be a great start.

Dustin: Let's look at it this way: if the church truly wanted homosexuals to be part of it's family, whether or not because of an ulterior motive, then why drive them away? Why is my "sin" worse than yours? If a convicted murderer walked into a church, he would be welcomed much more openly than I. Let's face it - the church can be somewhat over-zealous, and misplace it's convictions. I don't understand why the church has such a fear of homosexuals. Why is the church so threatened by us? I honestly have no advice for changing minds within the church. If I can't understand why the church has disdain for me, then I can't offer a solution for a more loving church family.The only thing I can do is surround myself with a church family that loves and accepts me, and will allow me to worship with my partner. Really, it's a simple request......

Carol: There are two things that I had to change from my church teachings. One, that being gay is not a choice. Two, I had to reframe my literalist view of the Bible. This was a HUGE change, and it took work to do it. It meant I had to really decide if I believed, and yet could reverse MANY things I had taken as fact, when it was a lot of opinion.

I welcome discussion about these responses, but again, I must insist that it be respectful. I will delete any comments that I find to be inflammatory or abusive.

Monday, September 07, 2009

Special Musical Monday, Part 1

I've been meaning to post this song for about two months, but the issue the song is about is one that I've struggled with for more than a decade now. And to be honest, I don't really expect today’s post to sort it all out for me or for anyone else. Today's song is “What Matters More” by Derek Webb from Stockholm Syndrome and the issue is homosexuality and the church.

Today I'm going to share some of my own thoughts and tomorrow I've invited several friends to comment.

(Disclaimer: today's song does have some adult language in it. Almost certainly an homage to Tony Campolo.)

You say you always treat people like you like to be
I guess you love being hated for your sexuality
You love when people put words in your mouth'
Bout what you believe, make you sound like a freak
'Cause if you really believe what you say you believe
You wouldn't be so damn reckless with the words you speak
Wouldn't silently consent when the liars speak
Denyin' all the dyin' of the remedy

Tell me, brother, what matters more to you?
Tell me, sister, what matters more to you?

If I can tell what's in your heart by what comes out of your mouth
Then it sure looks to me like being straight is all it's about
It looks like being hated for all the wrong things
Like chasin' the wind while the pendulum swings
'Cause we can talk and debate until we're blue in the face
About the language and tradition that he's comin' to save
Meanwhile we sit just like we don't give a shit
About 50,000 people who are dyin' today

Tell me, brother, what matters more to you?
Tell me, sister, what matters more to you?

Years ago, my best friend came out to me. She had gone through something that was incomprehensible to me and she was both literally and figuratively battered and bruised, and in the midst of that, she chose to make herself incredibly vulnerable and share this with me. I don't know at that time if I was a very good friend to her in my responses, but her revelation drove me to seek more from those who were gay and lesbian and were in the Church. I met a few people online who were gay Christians and they shared with me their stories and their interpretations of the verses that are most commonly used to condemn homosexuality. For the first time in my life, I was looking at some of these verses in a new light.

At this point, years later, I'm still not sure where I stand on the issue of homosexuality and the Bible. I definitely believe in equal rights for those in the LGBTQ community. To me, that's a civil rights issue and I have no problem saying that I'm in favor of gay marriage, repealing don't ask, don't tell, provisions that prevent firing a person from their job because they're gay, etc. I also believe beyond a shadow of a doubt that homosexuality is something that a person is and is no more a choice than it is for me to be attracted to men and that being gay is no more sinful than being straight. But when it comes down to the “is it a sin” issue with regard to gay relationships, I'm a bit more torn.

On one hand, it seems to be pretty obvious. There are verses in both the old and new testaments that seem to speak plainly to the sinfulness of same sex relationships. On the other hand, there are verses that seem to speak pretty plainly about women as pastors and wifely submission in marriage, and I don't generally hear folks saying that women pastors or couples in egalitarian marriages are going to hell. There may be disagreement about whether or not it's appropriate or biblical, but I don't think that most are questioning the salvation of the local female pastor or the couple who believes in an equal marriage. Why is it that we're willing to accept and love those who hold those positions as fellow believers, but are so often unwilling to extend the same love and acceptance toward those who are gay? Why do we have a “live and let live” attitude toward an egalitarian couple, but feel that the gay couple must separate in order to be saved?

Recently, the ELCA met and agreed to ordain those who are gay and in relationships. During the meeting where this was voted upon, there was a tornado that struck the city. Rather than being glad that no one was harmed, John Piper determined that this was God speaking to this church about their “approval of sin.” I will say, absolutely and without hesitation that this kind of message is the “damn reckless” speech that Webb is speaking about in his song. In my mind, there's not a whole lot of difference between this kind of rhetoric and the hate filled garbage spewed by Fred Phelps and his crew (Webb wrote a song to him as well on this album).

Ultimately I'm not sure if I completely agree with Webb in the song. I think sometimes that an “us against them” mentality ends up causing more harm than good. I do appreciate that he's at least being willing to talk about the issue at all because too often, the church seems reluctant to address its own actions or attitudes toward those who are gay and certainly privately it's a tough discussion to have (no one wants to admit their own fears & prejudices). I know that for me, the song lead me to ask questions of some gay friends, not just about social issues, but also about spiritual issues surrounding them. It has certainly opened my eyes yet again and led me to some additional resources (I am currently reading Jesus, the Bible, and Homosexuality by Jack Rogers). But mostly, it has reminded me again that this isn't just an “issue,” it's about real people with real feelings. And that's something that we need to remember regardless of where we end up.

I invite comments from any readers, but I do ask that you please be respectful. Any comments that I deem to be abusive will be deleted. Thanks.

Sunday, September 06, 2009

Week in Review

Good week here at the Wright hosue. The kids made it through their first full week of school with no major problems. A couple of slow starts, but for the most part, things seem to be going pretty well. I think it will be a good year and I look forward to meeting with all of the teachers before too long.

This weekend was a Stickfish weekend. For the most part, things went pretty well. There were a couple of really nice musical moments during Communion in the second service this morning and overall I felt like it was a pretty engaging group of songs. I love having the opportunity to play. Next week I sing for the kids upstairs -- can't wait to go do that! It's also the first kidSTUFF of the new year, and I think the kids are looking forward to that as well.

Deborah went to dv8 for the first time this past Tuesday. She seemed to enjoy it really well. I know her small group leaders from the praise team, which makes me feel a little more at ease. I don't know how my parents managed with me -- I swear every new thing that we have to do with Deborah makes me just a little more crazy! It's all good, it's just scary! I know that each thing puts her a little closer to adulthood and gives me a little less input into her life. I know that's what is supposed to happen, but it's a bit frightening nonetheless. That said, she still seems pretty engaged with the family. We had a girls' night on Friday. The boys went to a high school football game & after Faith went to bed, Deborah and I stayed up and watched "Twilight" together. It was kind of a cheesy movie (I can't help it -- I just don't "get it" when it comes to Twilight), but we had a good time eating a little ice cream and giggling about how cute Edward was (though he'll always be Cedric to me!). It was some good bonding time.

Thursday, September 03, 2009

Why Can't We All Just Get Along?

This is probably one of the best pieces that I've read recently. What an awesome thing if we could all engage in discussion in the way that Mr. Ruiz suggests here. Let's ask some questions. Let's listen. Let's learn.

Open Your Mind, America
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